Your brain is the largest sex organ in your body (or in other words, can we stop with the size enhancing ads now?)

You may or may not know that we (Kristin and Alisha) have been making regular appearances on a Salt Lake City, Utah radio show and have affectionately been dubbed as “The Sex Girls” as we take calls and talk to people struggling with or curious about a variety of sex and intimacy issues.  Often we have had callers still waiting when the show ended because this topic has such a huge impact on relationships and is so difficult for many to talk about — especially in the “Utah-Mormon” culture.

I wanted to expand on a question from one of our recent callers.  He talked about his wife having a difficult time with any physical intimacy at all because she felt “broken down there” due to a recent hysterectomy.  Although medically everything is fine and healthy he reported she isn’t able to properly lubricate or achieve orgasm.  Which brings me to my topic:

Your brain is the largest sex organ in your body and has a huge impact on your physical ability to have and enjoy physical intimacy of any kind.

Many of us are familiar with the admonition to, “Sing a church song when having sexual thoughts about someone,” to purge those thoughts away.  However, we then experience the ironic reaction of being in church and singing the same song and having sexual thoughts enter our mind because we caused our brain to make an association between the song and sexual thoughts!  Isn’t our brain great?!

The hypothalamus plays a vital role in controlling and directing our endocrine system — which controls our hormones.  The hypothalamus responds to all sorts of stimulation — thoughts, memories, the sounds of the kids arguing in the next room, the smell of stinky socks, the feel of a loving hug, and so on.  Your hypothalamus isn’t “good” or “bad” it’s just responding in the way it was designed.

Since I’m not writing an exhaustive treatise on the brain, just know that there is A LOT going on in the brain that affects our bodies physically.  When we have experienced trauma, negativity in relationships, stress, and poor health we can develop thoughts and habits that become toxic to ourselves and our relationships.  Sometimes we can recognize what is happening and stop our thought patterns ourselves.  Other times we need additional help to not only recognize what is happening but to learn the skills necessary to make the changes we want.

The good news to all this is that your brain is just waiting to release chemicals and hormones like oxytocin and dopamine to help enhance your pleasure, strengthen your relationship, and allow you to experience great moments of joy.

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