How to Keep Things Politically Correct if You and Your Spouse are Politically Divided

If you missed Kristin and Alisha’s segment this morning on KUTV 2 news on keeping the peace at home if you and your spouse differ on politics, we’ve posted their tips here and will post their clip soon!

How to Keep Things Politically Correct if You and Your Spouse are Politically Divided

We know that just about anything can cause conflict in a relationship — but especially politics.  We are all very passionate about our ideas and beliefs and sometimes have difficulty understanding why other people disagree with our point of view.  It’s one thing to argue with your brother over politics, but when you and your spouse differ the arguments can become pretty toxic.  Here are five tips to keep in mind this week as we all head to the polls:

1: Agree to disagree.   Mary Matalin and James Carville are a great example of a married couple who have found a way to overcome their political differences.  Although they work for opposing parties they have decided to keep political conversation out of their home.   To have a healthy and strong relationship you don’t have to agree on everything.  In fact, disagreement can be healthy because it can foster growth!  Realize that you probably aren’t going to be able to persuade your spouse that “your side” is the right side — so quit trying.

2:  Keep your sense of humor. Show respect for your partner by keeping the political banter lighthearted.  If things start to get heated take a step back and realize that “winning” this argument may actually cause your marriage to “lose” in the long run.  As you walk into the voting booth, just smile knowing that you and your spouse are cancelling each other out and it’s okay.

3: “Table the discussion.”   Ideological differences aren’t something that will be resolved over one conversation and/or argument.  Take a cue from Congress and “table” the discussion if necessary.  Even they know when their conversation is going nowhere and they leave it for another day.

4: Find Common Ground.  In your mind if you’ve labeled all liberals as “self-centered” and your spouse is liberal are you really going to place that same label on your spouse?  Try to actually listen with interest as to why your spouse believes what he does and see them as an individual and not part of some vague “group” to which they may or may not belong.  Surely there are a few policies you both can agree upon if you just close your mouth and listen.

5: Get out and Vote! Remember that every vote counts. Even though your spouse’s vote may cancel yours out, it’s still important to get out and vote!

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